We know this now.
So what do you do about it?
How do you create an awesome organizational culture?
You lead by example.
You hire great people.
And you educate your people on what it means to be masters of the human dimension. Corporate jedis, who are as skilled at the psychological and spiritual dimensions of work as they are getting stuff done.
People who take responsibility. Who, no matter what the challenge, ask themselves, “So what do I want to have happen? And what am I going to do about it?” People who don’t make assumptions about others’ intent. People who naturally extend the benefit of the doubt to their colleagues and their customers. People who are committed to bringing their best selves to work every day. People who make bombproof commitments. People who make requests rather than complaints. People who are able to say anything that is on their minds with both kindness and candor.
Jim Collins calls these kinds of leaders “Level 5 leaders.” As for how to create them, he has no idea. He says it’s a black box. I don’t think it is. I think there is so much we can do to teach people how to be and what to do to have great relationships and manage themselves with real integrity.
It should be taught in kindergarten.
But it’s not.
So let’s start now.
Suffer less. Have better relationships. Get more done.
These are all the things that are possible when you learn to have hard conversations that are both honest (from your perspective) and also genuinely caring of the person you are speaking to. Relying on the Lao Tzu principal that, “The best way to do is to be,” the first half of the workshop focuses on shifting essential mindsets before mapping out the speaking and listening required for better conversations, better relationships, and better results at work and beyond. The end-result is a step-by-step system for how to untangle one’s thinking, speak up, and listen to understand.
Anyone who wants to suffer less and feel more freedom around difficult situations and conversations
Anyone who finds themselves ruminating or worrying about things they are thinking but don’t know how to say
Anyone who has no problem speaking their mind, but often gets feedback that they can be too blunt or even harsh
I began my career as a lawyer and later went back to school to study Jungian psychology. In 2005, I entered the field of executive coaching and leadership development.
My passion is teaching people how to have hard conversations in ways that make relationships stronger. I believe this is the foundation for organizational success as well as individual thriving. My mission is to change the belief that this should be obvious or intuitive. The bad news is that it usually isn’t. The good news is that – like math or coding skills or anything else – it can be taught. And learning this skill is often a game changer, both personally and professionally.
I’ve worked with many clients in the U.S. and internationally, including LinkedIn, Stripe, Google, Headspace, and OpenAI. I have a B.A. from Barnard College, Columbia University, a J.D. with honors from Harvard Law School, and a Master’s in Counseling Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute.